Dr Renu Sharma, Associate Professor Desh Bhagat University Mandi Gobindgarh
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Prof. Madan Mohan Goel, Propounder – Needonomics & Former Vice-Chancellor
Marriage is perhaps the oldest social institution in human history — an arrangement that predates modern states, organized religions, and even formal economies. Across civilizations, it has been the cornerstone of family formation, social stability, and intergenerational continuity. In India, marriage has been celebrated not merely as a contract but as a sacred rite, binding two individuals and their families in an enduring relationship. Yet, in the 21st century, the very survival of this institution is under threat. Needonomics School of Thought (NST), which emphasizes need-based living and moral economics, warns that the erosion of marriage is not just a cultural loss but a moral and social crisis.
Why the Oldest Institution is in Peril
Marriage is being increasingly substituted by live-in relationships, particularly in urban India. While cohabitation is not new in human history, the current wave is not born of cultural tradition but rather of skepticism about the value of marriage itself. NST identifies one major driver of this trend: the misuse of well-intentioned laws.
The Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act (2005) was designed to safeguard women from abuse — a legitimate and necessary goal. However, there have been frequent cases where this law has been invoked in bad faith, leading to legal harassment, social stigma, and the breakdown of trust between genders. Similarly, the Sexual Harassment of Women at Workplace Act (2013) is indispensable for ensuring safe working environments, yet it too has been exploited by a small but significant number of so-called “liberated” individuals, leading to reputational damage for the innocent.
In both cases, misuse does not negate the importance of the laws, but it creates a culture of suspicion. For men, marriage starts to seem like a legal risk; for women, it becomes a conditional commitment that can be discarded with minimal consequence. In the absence of mutual trust, the foundation of marriage is weakened.
Marriage: A Civilizational Mosaic
India’s diversity extends to its marriage customs — there are as many types of marriages as there are gods in the Hindu pantheon. Some are rooted in religion, others in caste traditions, and still others in regional customs. The Swayamvara of ancient India, where women chose their life partners, existed alongside arranged alliances designed to preserve caste purity and family prestige.
In other cultures, the economic dimensions of marriage were more explicit. The ancient Greeks turned marriage into a business transaction, often involving dowry — a practice that still lingers, albeit illegally, in parts of India today.
Economists have also studied marriage as a rational choice. Nobel laureate Gary Becker of the University of Chicago famously modeled marriage decisions using economic principles, arguing that factors such as age, education, family background, caste, and urban-rural origin influence partner selection. In Becker’s theory, marriage is a market, with individuals seeking to maximize personal utility through their choice of spouse.
Curiously, Becker’s framework leaves little room for love as a determinant. Love, in many societies, has been considered a luxury — marriage, instead, was historically about economic stability, social alliances, and cultural continuity. What did enter the frame, particularly in modern India, were lavish weddings — sometimes costing more than a family could afford — thus turning marriage into a public display of wealth rather than a private commitment to companionship.
Industrialization and the Gender Equation
Historians of marriage view industrialization as a turning point. As economies shifted from agrarian to industrial, the economic roles of men and women diverged sharply. In many societies, industrialization sealed women’s roles into the domestic sphere, often reducing them to economic dependence on their husbands. In patriarchal settings, obedience became a marital expectation, reinforced by religion, law, and social norms.
In India, industrialization also triggered migration, urbanization, and exposure to new ideas. Education for women expanded, and with it came aspirations for autonomy. While these shifts empowered women, they also disrupted traditional marriage dynamics. Marriages that were once bound by necessity became subject to negotiation — or dissolution — when personal fulfillment was absent.
The 21st Century Marriage Crisis
NST foresees a scenario in which marriages, at least in their traditional form, may not survive this century. Several trends converge to create this possibility:
- Changing Social Attitudes – Marriage is no longer universally viewed as essential for a fulfilled life. Singlehood and cohabitation are socially acceptable in many urban settings.
- Legal Complexities – The perceived risks of marriage for men and the autonomy-friendly legal protections for women (however justified in spirit) have tilted the balance away from marital permanence.
- Economic Independence – Women’s participation in the workforce has reduced the economic dependency that historically kept marriages intact.
- Erosion of Extended Family Systems – Nuclear families reduce social oversight, making separations more feasible and less stigmatized.
- Consumerism and Lifestyle Aspirations – Lavish weddings, honeymoon destinations, and lifestyle expectations have transformed marriage into a short-lived event rather than a lifelong journey.
A Needonomics Perspective on Saving Marriage
The Needonomics School of Thought approaches the marriage crisis from a moral-economic lens. NST advocates that relationships, like economies, must be grounded in needs, not wants. When marriage becomes a platform to satisfy ever-expanding wants — lavish celebrations, status symbols, transactional benefits — its spiritual and social essence is lost.
1. Return to the Need-Based Ethic
Marriages should be entered into for the fundamental needs of companionship, emotional support, mutual respect, and family building — not for showcasing wealth or extracting economic advantage. This would mean reducing the financial and social burden of marriage ceremonies, promoting simplicity, and valuing the quality of the relationship over the scale of the celebration.
2. Legal Balance and Accountability
Laws designed to protect women must be preserved, but with mechanisms to punish misuse. False allegations in domestic violence or workplace harassment cases should attract penalties, just as actual crimes do. This balance can restore trust between genders.
3. Pre-Marital Education
Before marriage, couples should undergo counseling on conflict resolution, financial planning, and expectations management. Just as drivers need licenses before driving, couples need preparation before marrying.
4. Cultural Adaptation without Cultural Abandonment
Live-in relationships may serve as compatibility tests for some, but they should not replace the commitment and societal support structure of marriage. Cultural institutions must adapt — for example, by accepting inter-caste or inter-religious marriages — without abandoning the core values of fidelity, respect, and responsibility.
5. Both partners as equal stakeholders
NST envisions a marriage model where both partners are equal stakeholders, not competitors. Economic independence for women should strengthen, not weaken, marital bonds, provided mutual respect and shared responsibilities are upheld.
Will Marriage Survive?
NST does not predict the complete extinction of marriage, but it warns that without reform, marriage will become a niche practice rather than a universal norm. The challenge lies in re-centering marriage around needs rather than wants, and mutual responsibility rather than legal or social coercion.
If the oldest institution of humanity is to survive the 21st century, it will require a conscious effort to strip away the excesses, address the misuses of protective laws, and restore the trust between partners. In the Needonomics worldview, marriage is not a mere social arrangement but a moral economy of mutual giving, restraint, and purposeful living.
The real question is not whether marriage can survive, but whether we are willing to reimagine it in a way that serves both the individual and society — not as a relic of tradition, but as a renewed, need-based partnership fit for the realities of modern life.
